Monday, March 28, 2022


Some thoughts on walking through the storm & my new life perspective.

My kiddo had a sleepover at Grandma's house on Friday night.  I did my usual nightly activities when B has a sleepover & woke up on Saturday morning planning to clean my house.  

I was listening to music & getting ready for the day when a thought popped in my head:  'I should go watch the sunrise from the lake'!  I quickly looked up the sunrise time & decided I could make it to the lake in time.  I was seriously cutting it close but I made it!  

I debated on even going in the first place.  Then I asked myself 'When this all ends am I going to miss cleaning my house or miss seeing the sunrise from the lake?'.  The sunrise obviously won.

I live my life a lot differently now.  When I saw firsthand how short life can truly be, it permanently changed my perspective.  I try to see the best in every situation.  I let a lot of things go.  I don't hold on so tightly anymore to situations that aren't serving my happiness.

Wednesday, March 23, 2022


Life is short, make it sweet | On The Creek Blog //
 Life is short, make it sweet.

I got this message on the back of a Splenda packet when I was making my tea the other morning.  I thought it was fitting for the situation I'm in.

Coincidentally, I got the same message yesterday morning from a Splenda packet when I was making tea at my mom's house.

I know it's just a cute phrase to put on a sugar substitute packet but it has been my motto for life lately.

If this year has taught me anything, it is that you never know when this life will be over.  

My mom & I were talking the other day about how some people's lives are cut short.  How some people don't have enough time on this earth.  I thought about it for a minute & realized that even if I live to be 100, it probably still won't be enough time for me.  We're all in a race against time & it will never be enough.

Thursday, March 10, 2022



Journaling For Self Discovery | On The Creek Blog //

Using journaling to discover who I am.

After James died I noticed I was starting to fall back into the old habits I had before we got married...

I make them sound bad but I'm fairly wholesome so they're totally not!  Here are a few examples:

- I binge watched the entire series of The Golden Girls.  I used to watch the girls all the time after I got done working my first job out of high school.

- I started drinking soda again.  I used to drink pop at an alarming rate but gave up on it over the past few years.  Now I love to have a little can of Pepsi or Mountain Dew on my kid free nights.

- And, after watching one too many Tik Toks about the benefits of writing things down, I started journaling again.

I don't think I ever talked about this on my blog before but I used to keep some epic journals during my senior year & just out of high school.  I put a ton of random things in them & also wrote what I hoped for the future.  It all kind of stopped after I met James because I was actually living a good life.  I didn't need to dream about anything bigger.

Monday, March 07, 2022



Remembering my husband on his birthday | On The Creek Blog //
Thoughts on my husband's birthday.

Today is James's birthday.  Now it is just a date on the calendar.  There will be no more birthday cakes & celebrations with James here with us.  No one will get to see him grow older.

James will be 38 years old forever.

James had very few pictures from his childhood but we noticed a theme with most of them:  James was always in front of a cake!  It became a joke in our family every time James got around a cake.  The picture to the left is from his 38th birthday.  We always do birthday celebrations with our immediate family & I'm now so thankful for it.

My mom suggested getting a cake for James's birthday this year.  It's bittersweet but we still wanted to remember his birthday.

If I had only known his 38th birthday would have been his last.  But you don't know what you don't know.  I didn't know James would be gone just 9 months later. I didn't know I would be alone & crying on his birthday instead of celebrating.

Friday, March 04, 2022


Kids Raised Garden Bed | On The Creek Blog //
The super cute raised garden bed I bought for my son!

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My son, Braxton, usually has a sleepover at Grammy & Grumpy's house on Saturday night.  I love to spend my Saturday nights taking a hot bath with my calming bubble bath.  Then I take a little bit of melatonin, get super comfy on the couch & watch something on TV other than cartoons!  Okay, there have been a couple nights where I've watched Shrek & Tangled but I try to keep it to shows I can't watch with my son around!

After my self care Saturday night I usually end up waking up super early on Sunday morning.  I started making this my Walmart trip time.  I love going to stores super early in the morning.  The stores have hardly any people in them so I can leisurely stroll around & look at everything.  I don't have a lot going on in my life right now so walking down every aisle at Walmart on a Sunday morning is my new favorite pastime.

Wednesday, March 02, 2022


This is the fourth post in my 'grief diaries' series where I share my experiences in coping with my husband's death.

Previous 'grief diaries':
Grief Diaries 1
Grief Diaries 2
- Grief Diaries 3

I came across a fantastic video on Tik Tok last week.

The entire video is good but the words that stopped me in my tracks were this:

"Forever comes with an expiration date.  At some point, forever is going to come to an end."

The song "Forever After All" by Luke Combs gets me in my feelings every time.  The lyrics at the end of the song completely devastate me:

"And I know there'll be that moment
The good Lord calls one of us home And one won't have the other by their side
But heaven knows that that won't last too long
Maybe some things last forever after all"

Tuesday, March 01, 2022



Seed Starting Month! | On The Creek Blog //
Happy seed starting month!

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Happy March!  I am beyond excited that it is finally time to seed start for the garden!

Now I know that you're supposed to start seeds 6-8 weeks out but since I'm the most impatient person on the planet, I'm starting them very soon so they will be more like 12-13 weeks out.  It takes a little more work to keep my tiny seedlings going but I genuinely enjoy it.

I am so much like my dad when it comes to seed starting.  He actually started his plants before me last year!  He started around March 1 & I started around March 15.  He has already been pestering me about starting peppers because they take forever!  He tried to get me by asking if I got my pepper seeds yet...little did he know that I got my pepper seeds in January!  I definitely understood the assignment!

I always say I'm going to do just a few seeds but I know I'll end up doing tons of plants!  I have nowhere to put them this year so if you're local & want some pepper & tomato plants, let me know!

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