Last week, a tragedy struck close to home when a friend's sister was tragically murdered by her partner. This heartbreaking event has compelled me to address a topic that often remains veiled behind the facades of normalcy and smiles—domestic violence.

Domestic violence, or intimate partner violence, affects millions, cutting across age, race, gender, and socioeconomic status. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), on average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. This equates to more than 10 million men and women over the course of a year.

The Complexity of Domestic Violence

The suggestion that victims should "just leave" the relationship oversimplifies the profound and complex dynamics involved in domestic violence. It often comes from those fortunate enough never to have experienced such terror. The truth is that escaping an abusive relationship is not just a matter of walking out the door. Factors such as fear, financial dependency, social stigma, isolation, and even love can profoundly impact a victim's ability to leave.

From my own experience in a toxic relationship during high school, I can testify to the confusion and despair it breeds. How can someone who claims to love you also inflict such pain? Abuse is insidious, creeping into the relationship slowly, making it difficult for victims to recognize and respond to the escalating danger.

The Cycle of Abuse

The pattern of domestic violence often follows a cycle. Initially, tension builds, leading to an incident of abuse, which may then be followed by a period of remorse and a deceitful, calm phase, often referred to as the 'honeymoon period.' This cycle makes leaving difficult, as hope for change can be desperately convincing.

Victims stay for myriad reasons: fear of further violence, concern for children, financial dependency, or the hope that their partner will change. Critically, emotional attachment and loyalty should not be underestimated. It is not uncommon for victims to feel responsible for their partner's actions, blaming themselves due to the psychological manipulation by the abuser.

Breaking the Silence

Creating a supportive environment where victims can speak out without fear of judgment or retribution is not just important; it's essential. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, it's crucial to seek help. Organizations like the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE (7233) & thehotline.org) offer confidential support and resources.

Domestic violence should never be a private issue. It's a societal problem that demands public attention and collective action. We can make a difference by educating ourselves and others, advocating for stronger protections, and supporting victims. Remember, what appears as a fairytale facade can often be a living nightmare. Let's commit to being allies who lift the veil on these hidden turmoils.

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August was a monumental month for me as I dove headfirst into the world of audiobooks, consuming a whopping 21 titles! I've found audiobooks to be a fantastic way to multitask while indulging in my love for stories. Here's a glimpse into my month-long auditory adventure and why I think you might want to listen to some of these books.

Why I Chose Audiobooks

With a busy lifestyle, sitting down with a physical book can be a challenge, so audiobooks have become my go-to. They allow me to enjoy books while gardening, renovating, or even during my thrift store hunts. This month, my selections were largely inspired by Reese's Book Club and trending titles on the Libby app. It's like having a conversation with the characters and authors themselves, making mundane tasks so much more enjoyable.

Top Picks from August

Here’s a list of the books that kept me company, with my top favorites marked with an asterisk (*). Whether you're looking for inspiration, a gripping mystery, or a transformative self-help book, there's something here for everyone:

• A Child Called "It" by Dave Pelzer
• *I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy
• The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning by Margareta Magnusson
• *Wrong Place Wrong Time by Gillian McAllister
• Something in the Water by Catherine Steadman
• How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis
• *Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman
• *The Scent Keeper by Erica Baumeister
• *The Lying Game by Ruth Ware
• Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown
• *Cassandra in Reverse by Holly Smale
• *Grief is a Sneaky Bitch by Lisa Keefauver
• *The Day He Never Came Home by Andrew DeYoung
• One in a Millennial by Kate Kennedy
• When You Reach Me by Rebecca Stead
• *None of This is True by Lisa Jewell
• *This Time Tomorrow by Emma Straub
• *Main Character Energy by Jamie Varon
• The Age of Magical Overthinking by Amanda Montell
• *Campervans, Cooking, And Corpses by Tyler Rhodes
• Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty

Why These Books?

The starred books are ones that particularly resonated with me, either due to their compelling narrative and transformative messages or simply because they were a joy to listen to. From the darkly humorous and painfully honest memoir of Jennette McCurdy to the intricate mysteries by Lisa Jewell, these books have added immense value and perspective to my daily routines.

Dive Into Audiobooks

If you're considering diving into audiobooks or looking for your next great listen, consider starting with one of my August favorites. You might find yourself as hooked as I am! Pause, rewind, or fast forward; audiobooks allow you to consume stories your way. Happy listening!

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As you all know, I've always loved books, which even led me to open my own Little Free Library in our neighborhood. But with life being as hectic as it is, sitting down to read has become a rare luxury. That's when I stumbled upon the magical world of audiobooks on Spotify, and let me tell you, it was love at first listen!

The Spotify Surprise

One day, while exploring Spotify, I discovered they offered audiobooks. I decided to give it a try, and it was a game-changer. Audiobooks allowed me to "read" while doing other things—like gardening or driving. However, I learned that Spotify limits the monthly hours you can listen to with a premium plan. You can buy more time or wait for the monthly reset, but I wanted something a bit more straightforward.

Diving Into Audible

My journey then took me to Audible, thanks to a few free months I snagged with a promotion. Audible's premium plan is fantastic, offering one credit per month to purchase new releases or any book you fancy. While it's a paid service, the variety of books available, including many new releases not immediately available on other platforms, is quite impressive.

Rediscovering Libby

Then, I remembered Libby. Oh, Libby! For those unfamiliar with it, Libby is a free app that links you to your local library, allowing you to check out books digitally. It's just like a physical library; there are a finite number of copies, and you must return them within 21 days. If your desired book is checked out, you can place it on hold and wait your turn. It's a fantastic resource for free reading.

Conclusion: There's an Audiobook Option for Everyone

Whether you're a casual listener or a voracious "reader," there's an option out there for you. From the convenient streaming on Spotify to the extensive library on Audible and the community gem that is Libby, you can keep your literary love thriving without breaking the bank or your schedule.

Happy reading—or should I say listening? Let me know your favorite way to consume books these days! 📚✨

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Is your garden begging for more greenery but your wallet saying, "Hold on there!"? Well, I've got some fabulous news for you! Propagating your own herbs isn't just for the green thumbs or expert gardeners. Today, I'm diving into the "lazy gardening" technique of sticking herb cuttings directly into the soil—a simple, cost-effective method to expand your garden.

Why Propagate Herbs?

Propagating herbs is not only economical but also incredibly satisfying. It allows you to multiply your favorite herbs without spending extra bucks at the garden center. Whether you want to enhance your meals with fresh flavors or add some green to your space, this method is a perfect choice.

Herbs That Love to Root in Soil

While many herbs can be propagated by water, here are some that thrive when their cuttings are planted directly in soil:

• Mint: Known for its aggressive growth, mint is a perfect candidate for direct soil propagation. Simply cut, stick it in the dirt, and watch it take off!
  
  
• Rosemary: This fragrant herb roots well in well-draining soil. Ensure it's kept moist, and you'll have new plants in no time.
  
  
• Thyme and Sage: Both herbs root easily when planted directly in light, sandy soil.
  
  
• Oregano: Similar to thyme, oregano cuttings adapt well when planted in moist, fertile soil.

Step-by-Step Guide to Propagating Herbs in Soil

1. Prepare Your Cuttings: Select healthy, non-flowering stems from your existing herb plants. Cut about 4-6 inches from the tip, making sure to cut just below a leaf node.
   
   
2. Prep the Soil: Use a pot with good drainage filled with a mix of potting soil and sand or perlite. This ensures excellent drainage, which is crucial for root development.
   
   
3. Plant Your Cuttings: If you have it on hand, dip the cut end into rooting hormone. This step is optional but can help encourage root growth. Make small holes in the soil with a stick or pencil, place your cuttings inside, and firm the soil around them.
   
   
4. Create the Right Environment: Water the cuttings well and cover the pot with a plastic bag to create a mini-greenhouse effect. This maintains humidity and warmth, speeding up the rooting process.
   
   
5. Care and Patience: Place your new plant babies in a spot with indirect sunlight and keep the soil moist. In a few weeks, check for roots by gently tugging on the cuttings. If you feel resistance, congratulations—you've got roots!

Wrapping Up

With these simple steps, you can turn a single plant into an entire garden of aromatic herbs. It's a sustainable way to keep your kitchen stocked with fresh flavors all year round. Plus, who doesn't love a bit of greenery to brighten up their home?

Happy gardening, and remember, every little leaf is a step towards a more sustainable, lush life!

You know I'm always about turning a drab space into something magical, right? Well, this year, my garden is getting that slow, magical touch, and I'm here to share the journey with you. 🌱✨

This season, I decided to take things at a leisurely pace with my garden. Not because I planned it meticulously, but rather, life happened, and my usual spring planting slipped through the cracks. By the time I realized it, it was already June! But you know what? It turned out to be a blessing in disguise.

A Slow Start

I began the season lazily, missing the window to start many of my seeds. In the end, I had just one successful tomato plant and one pepper plant, plus a few others gifted by my parents. It wasn't until mid-June that I kicked into gear, experimenting with older seeds I had stashed away and embracing every volunteer tomato and pepper that nature sent my way.

Therapeutic Gardening

This year, gardening has become my therapy. It's not about the harvest or filling my pantry—it's about nurturing each plant and enjoying the growth process. My mint box has thrived under my care, with little sprouts getting extra attention and love.

Embracing Uncertainty

Sure, I'm a bit worried about my harvest timing. My pumpkins might be racing against the frost, and my fall decorations could be delayed. But there's something incredibly rewarding about nurturing these plants from unexpected beginnings. Those volunteer plants? They've become stars in their own right, reducing waste and maximizing the bounty of my garden.

Lessons from the Garden

This slower pace has taught me to appreciate the moment and the unexpected gifts that come with it. It's a lesson I'm trying to apply beyond the garden, too—taking time to consider all options in life and work before making decisions.

My Advice to You

For anyone feeling hesitant or late to the game in any aspect of life—not just gardening—I say go for it. Life is too short for what-ifs. Starting a garden late in the season? It's a risk worth taking and definitely not something you'd regret when you look back.

So, here's to taking it slow, embracing the unexpected, and making the most of every moment. Because, after all, isn't life our biggest DIY project ever? 🛠️🌱

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Today, I'm taking a little trip down memory lane. Remember when I was super picky about paint brands? Yep, I was quite the paint snob. But guess what? Things have changed! While I admit some paint is better than others, I've realized that nobody will notice if I use $1 acrylic paint for projects like painting a picture frame. Let's dive into why sometimes any paint will do!

The Early Days

In the beginning, when I first ventured into refurbishing furniture, my go-to was Annie Sloan Chalk Paint, arguably the best chalk paint available. However, its limited availability meant driving over 30 miles just to pick up a can—talk about commitment!

I also fell hard for Fusion Mineral Paint, which I still adore due to its built-in topcoat—perfect for someone like me who struggles with finishing touches. Yes, I once drove an hour each way just to get my hands on this paint!

Choosing the Right Paint

Choosing the right paint can indeed make a difference, especially for specific projects. Specialty paints like Fusion Mineral or Annie Sloan offer unique advantages, such as easier application and better durability for furniture. However, they have limitations, such as higher costs and fewer color options.

The Industry Secret

Before the trend of specialized "cabinet paints," many DIY enthusiasts and professionals simply used regular latex wall paint for cabinets—and it worked just fine! This shows that specialty paints offer certain benefits but are not always necessary.

Pros & Cons of Specialty Paint:

Pros:

- Specialty paints often come with additives like built-in sealers or primers.

- They can save time and effort in the prep and finishing stages.

- Often better for specific surfaces or uses, offering more durability.

Cons:

- Higher cost.

- Limited color choices and availability.

- It can be overkill for simple or small projects.

Conclusion

Being open to experimenting with different types of paint has taught me that flexibility can lead to creativity and unexpected success. Whether you're touching up an old picture frame or tackling a full furniture refurbishment, the right paint might just be the one you already have at hand. Life's too short to sweat the small stuff—embrace the unexpected, and sometimes, the less expensive options lead to the best outcomes!

Call to Action

Every summer brings with it a bittersweet reminder of a past life—a life where my late husband, James, and I were on the cusp of realizing all our dreams. It was during these warm months that we received James's devastating cancer diagnosis. As the world around us blossomed, our plans for adopting our son and building our future together seemed to shatter irreparably.

Life has a peculiar way of unfolding. It's been over two and a half years since we lost James, and with each passing day, I've trodden a path of profound personal growth and healing. This journey, although laden with grief, has slowly morphed into a canvas of strength and independence—a version of myself I had never known before.

Recently, I ventured on an overnight hotel stay with my son—our first since James passed. As I watched my son's excitement, a pang of melancholy mixed with a deep sense of accomplishment. These small steps are monumental milestones in our new life, each a testament to our resilience and ability to find joy amidst sorrow.

It's true; I often wonder what life could have been like. Imagining weekends packed with family adventures and spontaneous trips, the laughter-filled air, and the joy of shared experiences. Yet, here I am, learning to navigate this world as a single parent, finding solace in my newfound independence. It's not a path I chose, but one that chose me, compelling me to grow in ways I never anticipated.

I won't say it's easy. There are days when the weight of solo parenting and decision-making feels overwhelming. There are moments when I wish I didn't have to know this life of loss and forced independence. Yet, these challenges have sculpted a resilience in me that I never knew existed. They've taught me that I am capable of venturing into the world on my own, finding joy in solitude, and embracing the spontaneity of life as a single mom.

As I continue to forge this unexpected path, I'm learning to love the life I've been given, not just the life I had planned. Our adventures may look different now, but they are no less significant. Each step forward is a piece of the puzzle in understanding and embracing this new chapter.

To those walking a similar path of loss and rediscovery, know it's okay to mourn the plans that never came to fruition. But also remember, within each of us is a resilient spirit capable of rewriting our story, finding beauty in the ashes, and learning to live—and love—again.

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As someone who's always dabbling in new projects and reinventing spaces, I've decided to bring a special series to our blog—a weekly thrifting adventure. So, as I dust off my thrifting gloves and step back into the treasure troves of thrift stores, I thought, what better way to kick things off than to share why I'm drawn to these havens of potential.

Unleashing My Creativity

As a creative soul, I'm all about putting a personal spin on everything I touch. Thrifting gives me the canvas to express this creativity without the high stakes. I can pick up an old chair, a worn-out table, or even quirky decorations and transform them into pieces that not only tell a story but also reflect my unique style. The thrill of the transformation process is like no other, and knowing I didn't break the bank adds to the satisfaction.

It's Cost-Effective

Let's talk numbers! While it's true that pricing can vary, I generally find that thrift stores are treasure chests of budget-friendly finds. My strategy? I go for the underdogs—the pieces that are a step away from being discarded. It's amazing what a little TLC can do; often, these items become the highlights of our home. With prices being generally lower, it's exciting to see what I can revamp next without worrying about the financial risk.

A Nod to Sustainability

In today's world, being eco-conscious is more crucial than ever. Thrifting allows me to embrace sustainability actively. By rehoming and repurposing items, I help reduce waste and give new life to things that were once destined for the landfill. It's about making the old new again and doing my part for the planet, one thrift find at a time.

Low Investment, High Reward

With five cats ruling our roost and a quite active household, things inevitably get broken or worn out quicker than you can say "thrifting"! Thrifting is a low-risk investment for me. If an item breaks or gets ruined, it's not the end of the world because I didn't invest much in it. This doesn't mean I see our things as disposable—far from it! It's about practicality and peace of mind.

So, why do I thrift? It's simple, really. Thrifting fits perfectly with my lifestyle and values. It's a blend of creativity, sustainability, and savvy budgeting. As we dive into our weekly thrifting series, I invite you to explore how you, too, can integrate thrifting into your life. Who knows what treasures you'll find?

Stay tuned for more thrifting tales and tips! And remember, every item has a story waiting to be told. Will you be the one to tell it? 🌍✨