The Trick Is, You Have to Be the Love You Want to Receive

For a long time, I thought the love I wanted was somewhere out there, waiting for me to stumble into the right person who would finally “get it.”

But here’s what I’ve learned:  Love doesn’t start when someone else shows up.

It starts when you do.

Becoming the Person Who Attracts What You Want

If you’ve ever read anything about manifestation or the law of attraction, you’ve probably heard the phrase “like attracts like.” But what it really means, on a soul level, is that you’ll always draw in relationships that reflect where you’re currently operating from.

If you’re used to over-giving, you’ll meet takers.

If you’re used to hiding parts of yourself, you’ll meet people who overlook you.

If you believe love means chasing, you’ll meet people who run.

So the shift begins when you stop asking, “Where’s my person?” and start asking, “Who am I being?”

When I began writing out the traits I wanted in a partner, things like integration and transparency, intentional romance, mutual effort, and leadership without control, I realized I wasn’t just describing him.

I was describing me.

Or at least, the version of me ready to receive that kind of love.

Preparing for Love by Practicing It

Being the love you want to receive isn’t about pretending you’re in a relationship. It’s about creating the environment for that love to exist.

✨ If you want honesty, speak truthfully, even when it’s uncomfortable.

✨ If you want consistency, show up for yourself every day.

✨ If you want affection, soften instead of guarding your heart out of fear.

✨ If you want effort, treat your own growth like a priority.

The universe doesn’t give us what we want; it mirrors who we are becoming.

So I’m learning to live in that vibration now, to embody the kind of love that feels calm, reciprocal, and safe.

Getting Ready, Not Waiting

There’s something powerful about preparing your life like love’s already on its way, not in a desperate “manifest him” way, but in a grounded, I’m ready when it’s right kind of way.

You decorate your space with warmth.

You nurture your routines.

You speak kindly to yourself.

You stop settling for people who can’t meet you where you’re headed.

That’s how love finds you; when it doesn’t have to save you, it just has to join you.

My Beginner Manifestation Rule

Start by acting as if your ideal relationship is already your reality.

How would you talk?

How would you move through your day?

How would you treat yourself?

Then do that.

That’s what “being the love you want to receive” really means: becoming a match for what you’re asking for, instead of waiting for someone else to bring it to you.