Wednesday, October 22, 2025

It’s Not Your Job to Prove You’re Enough

For most of my life, I’ve been a “try harder” kind of person.

If something felt off in a relationship or friendship, my first instinct wasn’t to pull back; it was to do more.

Be kinder. Be more understanding. Be easier to love.

But lately, I’ve realized something I wish I’d learned years ago: It’s not my job to prove I’m enough.

It’s my job to walk away from anyone who treats me like I’m not.

I Used to Think Love Meant Fighting for People

I thought being loyal meant holding on, even when things felt one-sided.

I thought if I just stayed long enough, loved hard enough, and forgave fast enough, people would eventually see my worth.

But all that did was teach me how to exhaust myself in the name of hope.

When you constantly prove yourself, you start believing you’re the problem.

You start measuring your value by how much someone else can handle you.

It took me a long time to realize how someone treats me says more about their capacity to love than my worth.

Their inconsistency, silence, and inability to meet me halfway are not a reflection of my flaws. It’s a reflection of their limitations.

When someone fails to recognize your value, it’s not because you’re too much.

It’s because they’re not capable of holding someone as deep and genuine as you.

Walking away used to feel like failure.

Now, it feels like freedom.

It’s not bitterness, it’s boundaries.

It’s the moment you stop auditioning for roles in other people’s lives and start starring in your own.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for protecting your peace.

You don’t have to prove your worth to someone who’s made it clear they can’t see it.

Because you are enough, even if they never realize it.

You’re not too emotional. You’re not too complicated. You’re not asking for too much.

You’re just asking the wrong people.

The right people won’t make you beg for clarity, affection, or effort.

They’ll meet you there. No convincing required.