Monday, June 29, 2026

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Sometimes the biggest thing standing between us and the life we want is the idea that we already missed our chance.


This year's garden almost didn't happen.

By the time I finally looked outside and thought, I should really get the garden going, I felt like I'd already missed my window. The frost dates had come and gone. Everyone else had seedlings twice the size of mine. Garden centers were full of thriving plants while I was staring at unopened seed packets, wondering whether I should just wait until next year.

It would've been easy to call it a loss before I ever got started.

Honestly, life has a funny way of convincing us there's only one "right" time to begin something. Miss that window, and suddenly it feels pointless to try. We tell ourselves we'll start next season, next month, next Monday, next year.

But sometimes starting late is still better than never starting at all.

So I decided to plant the garden anyway.

I grabbed my seed packets, many of which were practically destroyed after I accidentally left them on the porch during a rainstorm. I dug through the soggy mess, salvaged whatever seeds I could find, filled up my little seed-starting greenhouses, and hoped for the best.

I even direct sowed a few things.




One unexpected perk of planting late? You don't spend weeks obsessing over frost dates when they're already behind you.

Then came the hardest part.

Waiting.

Not everything made it.

Truthfully, most of those old seeds were duds. A few trays never sprouted at all. Every empty cell was a reminder that sometimes you really do lose things by waiting.

But then... little by little... green started popping through the soil.


A handful of tomato plants survived. My herbs, which I've somehow managed to struggle with every single year, are actually doing pretty well. Tiny seedlings pushed through the dirt after I'd almost convinced myself nothing would.

And somewhere in the middle of watching those little sprouts appear, it hit me.

Maybe life works the same way.

Maybe we spend too much time worrying about whether we're "behind" and not enough time appreciating that we're still here.

Still planting.

Still trying.

Still growing.



Sure, maybe I would've had more tomatoes if I'd started in March. Maybe my peppers would've made it. Maybe my harvest will be smaller this year.

But if I had decided it was "too late," I'd have exactly none of it.

No fresh basil.

No tomatoes.

No rainy mornings checking the seedlings.

No evening walks through the garden to see what changed overnight.

Nothing.



Sometimes the harvest isn't just what grows in the garden.

Sometimes it's the reminder that progress is still possible, even when you don't start on time.

So if you've been putting something off because you think you've already missed your chance, maybe this is your reminder.

Start the garden.

Write the book.

Take the class.

Plant the seed.

Starting late doesn't mean you're starting wrong.

It just means today became the day you finally decided to begin.



Monday, June 15, 2026

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If you asked me when my life started to change, when it became a clear case of before loss and after loss, I would tell you it was June 15, 2020.


Exactly six years ago today.


There have been plenty of defining moments in my life, but I can look back now and see that this was the beginning of a chain reaction that would completely reshape my world. At the time, I had no idea. Looking back, though, I can draw a straight line from that day to many of the biggest losses and life changes that followed, culminating in my husband's death on December 15, 2021.


On June 15, 2020, our beloved dog, Rain, passed away.


His death wasn't unexpected. He was around fifteen years old and had lived a long, happy life. Even so, the experience was incredibly traumatic for James and me. Losing a pet is one of those grief experiences people often underestimate until they go through it themselves. For us, Rain wasn't "just a dog." He had been woven into the fabric of our everyday lives for years.


Oddly enough, his death became one of those defining moments that strengthened our marriage.


There are events in life that either push couples apart or pull them closer together. For us, losing Rain brought us closer. We grieved together. We leaned on each other. Looking back now, I think we needed that connection because neither of us knew the storm that was waiting just around the corner.


Around that same time, James and I were in the process of becoming licensed foster parents. Part of that process involved a home study, which is essentially a deep dive into your life, your family, and your relationship. There were interviews, paperwork, background checks, and countless conversations about who we were as people and as a couple.


I remember one question in particular.


The social worker asked us to describe a time we had faced significant challenges together as a couple. We were asked about financial struggles, family conflicts, health issues, marriage difficulties, and other major obstacles we had overcome.


The funny thing is, at that point, we didn't really have an answer.


I don't say that to brag. Quite the opposite.


The next couple of years would hand us more challenges than I ever thought possible.


But at that moment in time, James and I had been remarkably lucky. We had experienced normal life stressors, of course, but we hadn't yet been tested by the kinds of losses that fundamentally change who you are.


Sometimes I joke that God, Source, the Universe, or whatever higher power is running the show looked down at my life and realized they'd forgotten to sprinkle in the hard times.


Then they dumped five years' worth on me all at once.


Of course, that's not really how life works. But there are seasons when challenges seem to arrive one after another, so quickly that you barely have time to catch your breath before the next one appears.


And for me, that season seemed to begin with Rain.


He was one of those once-in-a-lifetime dogs.


Even six years later, he still shows up in my dreams. Sometimes they're vivid enough that I wake up expecting to see him lying in his usual spot. There was always something special about him, something difficult to explain. Maybe every pet owner feels that way about their favorite dog, but I've never been able to shake the feeling that Rain was different.


Looking back now, his death feels like a threshold.


Not because losing him caused everything that came after, but because it marked the end of one chapter and the beginning of another.


Within the next eighteen months, we would experience a failed foster placement, welcome our son into our lives, receive James' cancer diagnosis, and eventually say goodbye to him far sooner than anyone should have to.


The version of me that existed before June 15, 2020, had no idea what was coming.


I've heard people say that our bodies remember trauma anniversaries, even when our minds aren't consciously thinking about them. I don't know if that's scientifically true.


What I do know is that every year around this time, I start feeling something shift.


A heaviness.


A sadness.


A sense of reflection.


Maybe it's grief. Maybe it's memory. Maybe it's simply recognizing a date that quietly divided my life into a before and an after.


If someone asked me what moment changed my life, they would probably expect me to say the day James died.


But I wouldn't.


I would say June 15, 2020.


Because that's the day the old version of my life quietly began to disappear.

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